Submit.

What does that mean?! We hear the term and tear shit up. Societally it has become a term parallel to control but can mean the exact opposite. The term is defined as accept or yield to a superior force or to the authority or will of another person and subject to a particular process, treatment, or condition. Simply saying submitting yourself to something is making yourself vulnerable and available to the experience. When submitting to the process of growth it requires that you put yourself in front of the light and provide enough water to grow like a seed. Standing in darkness is not going to motivate the plant to grow considering that it requires the plant to be in a space the encourages growth and health. When we submit in a relationship, we make ourself open and available for flexibility, vulnerability and engagement.

This is what is required in establishing and continuing both connection and growth. Find a space that you give yourself the benefit of the doubt and allow your defenses to come down. Make it safe to share, be you and explore. Connect to the earth, sun and you insides. Let your hair down and explore the power of submission.

“Love is giving up control. It’s surrendering the desire to control the other person. The two—love and controlling power over the other person—are mutually exclusive. If we are serious about loving someone, we have to surrender all the desires within us to manipulate the relationship.” -Rob Bell, Sex God: Exploring the Endless Connections Between Sexuality and Spirituality